If you look for any clear guidance in the Bible about age differences between couples, you won’t find direct answers. The Scriptures rarely mention ages of husbands or wives and do not make age a focus when discussing marriage. One of the few examples is Abraham and Sarah, where Abraham was about ten years older than Sarah. This is notable but not unusual, and it stands out because age is generally not emphasized.
Another example often brought up is Boaz and Ruth. The Bible doesn’t give their ages, but Boaz’s kind words to Ruth suggest he was likely older. Some traditional sources speculate Boaz was about 80 while Ruth was 40, but the Bible itself does not confirm these numbers.
There is also a belief that Joseph, Jesus’s earthly father, was much older than Mary, but that idea comes from tradition rather than Scripture. The Bible says nothing about their ages, so it remains unknown.
Overall, age gap in marriage is not presented as a spiritual or moral issue in the Bible. God focuses more on who we marry—including faith and commitment—than on how many years separate couples. Today, some people worry about big age gaps, especially when one partner is very young. The Bible doesn’t speak about this, but it encourages us to pray for wisdom and choose partners based on love, faith, and mutual respect. Age is just one of many things to consider but not a cause for judgment.
