Attraction doesn’t always follow a predictable path. For many people, it shifts and evolves over time, leading to identities that challenge traditional labels. One such identity is abrosexuality—a term describing fluid sexual attraction that changes spontaneously. For writer Emma Flint, coming to terms with her abrosexuality took nearly 30 years, highlighting the complex journey of understanding fluid sexuality.
Flint, who published her personal story in July 2024, described decades of shifting attractions, feeling like a lesbian at times, then attracted to men, then to no one at all, and back again. She felt lost and like a fraud because her identity seemed in constant flux. Discovering “abrosexual” in an online forum was transformative—it gave her a word that fit her experience, making her feel seen and validated.
Abrosexuality differs from bisexuality or pansexuality by emphasizing the fluid and changing nature of attraction, rather than attraction to multiple genders consistently. The term comes from the Greek “abro,” meaning delicate or graceful, symbolizing the fluctuating nature of this sexuality.
Experiencing abrosexuality can mean waking up attracted to a different gender, cycling through periods of little or no attraction, or evolving orientation over months or years. There is no single pattern, and the experience is highly individual.
Emma Flint hopes that abrosexuality will be accepted as a normal identity, reducing stigma and helping more people find language to describe their authentic selves. Her story underscores the importance of terminology and representation in understanding diverse sexualities.
