Emma Flint’s sexual identity never stayed in one place – and that’s exactly how it was meant to be. The English writer’s recent coming out as abrosexual after thirty years of self-discovery sheds light on this little-understood but important aspect of human sexuality.
What makes abrosexuality unique? It’s not about who you’re attracted to, but about how those attractions change. One month Flint felt exclusively attracted to women; the next, her desires might shift toward men or disappear altogether. “I didn’t change my identity because I couldn’t make up my mind,” she clarifies. “My identity changed because that’s how I’m wired.”
The concept challenges conventional notions of sexual orientation as something fixed. For abrosexual individuals, attraction can fluctuate daily, seasonally, or over years. Some days they might feel bisexual, other days asexual, and still others exclusively gay or straight – with all variations being equally valid expressions of their identity.
Flint’s story carries an important message about acceptance – both self-acceptance and societal understanding. “I hope abrosexuality comes to be seen not as a trend,” she says, “but as a normal way some people experience attraction.” Her journey reminds us that human sexuality defies simple categorization, and that’s something worth celebrating.
